We’ve all been hurt many times in our lives. Maybe you’ve been criticized by a parent growing up, and you’re still blaming them for the things that didn’t turn out as you expected in your life. Maybe you experienced bullying at school. Maybe a friend or a partner deceived you. When someone you care about hurts you, it can make you feel angry or resentful towards this person. You may even think of revenge. When you’re breaking, forgiveness isn’t something that you think about.
Holding grudges and resentment towards the people who hurt you in some way consumes you slowly from the inside. These feelings can make you feel frustrated, angry, and bitter. You may find it hard to trust people or form deeper connections because you’re afraid you will get hurt again.
The only way to free yourself from these feelings is by embracing forgiveness. This article will discuss four reasons why forgiveness is important and how it can help you move forward on your spiritual path towards feelings of love, joy, and peace.
What is forgiveness?
I wondered if I should even ask this question, as forgiveness means something different to each of us. For me, forgiving is a decision to let go of all the negative feelings towards the person who hurt me. Sometimes, it’s hard. Other times, it comes more easily. But it still comes down to a simple decision.
Some people have a hard time forgiving because they think that forgiveness equals forgetting. I don’t know about you, but I do not forget the times in my life when I felt hurt! Strong emotions like that are not easily forgotten. Forgiving doesn’t mean wiping the slate clean and completely forgetting that someone hurt you.
Forgiving means choosing to let go of all the feelings of resentment, blame, and anger towards the person who hurt you.
Why is forgiveness so important?
Here are four reasons why forgiveness is important and why you should give it a try.
1. Forgiveness means letting go
Letting go is the most powerful choice that you can make. When you hold on to negative emotions, they consume you from the inside and control you. This is why when we feel angry, we tend to say things we don’t mean or react to situations in a way that we usually wouldn’t. This is one of the reasons why forgiveness is important. When we choose to forgive, we also choose to let go of these negative feelings.
Everything that you’ve ever experienced happened for a reason. If you’ve been hurt by someone, it may be difficult to understand that this experience was meant to serve a specific purpose in your life. Forgiving starts with accepting what happened, understanding that it is intended to serve a specific purpose, and choosing to let go of the anger and resentment you may be feeling right now.
2. Forgiveness gets you out of victim mentality
Another reason why forgiveness is important is that it helps you get out of victim mode. After you’ve been hurt, you may be blaming this person for hurting you. You may even be blaming yourself for doing things the wrong way. You may be asking yourself why it happened to you or why this person did this to you. This way of thinking puts you in the victim mentality.
Forgiveness means understanding that the actions of the person who hurt you don’t mean anything about you. You may have such a hard time forgiving because you think that the betrayal, criticism, or anything else that this person did to you means terrible things about you. It doesn’t. You have the power to make it mean whatever you want to make it mean. You also have the power to not make it mean anything at all.
3. Forgiveness raises your vibration
The following reason why forgiveness is important is that it helps you raise your vibrational frequency. Even though forgiveness is not on the emotional guidance scale, it inspires high vibrational feelings. If you’ve been hurt, you may now be feeling negative emotions such as anger, disappointment, rage, hatred, unworthiness, revenge, or even depression. These are all very low vibrational emotions. By choosing forgiveness, you let go of these emotions. This will help you move up the emotional guidance scale and immediately raise your vibration.
According to the Law of Attraction, we attract the things that match our vibrational frequency. This is why when you choose to forgive and raise your vibration, you will start to attract more events and situations into your life that make you feel positive emotions. You will step on the upward spiral of positive, high vibrational emotions.
4. Forgiveness makes you regain control over your emotions
If someone hurts you, you may be holding on to all the negative emotions inspired by this person’s actions. Most of the time, when we choose to hold on to these emotions, it is easier to do so than accept that someone we cared about hurt us. But by holding on to the feelings of anger, resentment, blame, or anything else you might be feeling, you are also choosing to let these emotions control you.
Forgiveness is a choice. By making a decision to forgive, you’re also deciding to let go of all the negative feelings you’re holding on to. You’re choosing to regain control over your emotions.
To Sum It Up
The truth is, forgiving is not easy. If you’ve been hurt recently, you may find it hard to listen to someone telling you to forgive the person who hurt you. However, if you’ve read this article, it means that you’ve already made the first step towards forgiveness! Understanding why forgiveness is important and choosing to forgive over holding on to negative emotions is the most empowering thing you can do! Choosing forgiveness over anger and resentment is an expression of self-love.
Do you think you should forgive that person who hurts you? If yes, let me know your number one reason why you should do it in the comment section below, so others can get inspired from you and forgive those who hurt them as well.